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Emotional Gestures
Please discuss your thoughts about interpreting emotional gestures
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| so i just wanted to know how to tell if someone is lying when ok here's the situation: i saw a girl in the parking lot of a store and she started talking about how my son looks just like his dad (my boyfriend) and i asked her if she knew him (i was driving his car-he wasnt with me)and she said yes. i asked her where she knew him from and she said "too many places to name." i chatted with her further about if she had the same interests as him that were pretty public knowledge trying to keep the conversation "friendly" and then repeated the question where do you know him from. she gave me the same answer. i then proceeded to ask her if she would like for me to tell him she said "hi" and she said i dont know im sure ill see him again. i said ok and then asked her if the little boy who was with her was her son. she said "is that HIS son (giggle, giggle) and said no." of course he wasnt because my boyfriend is white and the woman i was talking to was black. there was no mistake that her son was not biracial, but she thought i was refering to my boyfriend when i asked about her son. so then i go back and tell my boyfriend what happened and asked him if he knew the girl. his gaze was fixed on me, his pupils were as small as the head on a needle and told me in a calm voice that he was more pissed off about it than i was. he told me he had no idea who this girl was, but his mouth twitched when he said it. he was leaning on the railing on his balcony and said he really didnt know. then after leaving his house, i came back to his house, and he proceeded to explain to me that this girl might be someone his friend was trying to talk to to "get to know" and that he may have used to work with her, and he may have seen her around different places, but he couldnt recall a name and said thats all he could think of. he looked in my eyes the whole time. with pupils as small as needle heads i dont even remember if he blinked or not his gaze was so prevalent. of course the next day i am stand offish toward him though he said he was going to let me use his car. he sees that i am stand offish toward him and renigs on me using the car. and acts all upset that i havent let the matter drop and puts it on me that i should just be ok about the whole thing and insists the girl is full of you know what. he is upset that i would believe (though i am not sure what to believe at this point) a random person "over" him when this girl was so sure she knew him "from too many places" and that she was sure she'd see him again. this girl had no reason to lie to me and she seemed so endeared with the fact that my son's hair was so long and with out even looking at me she saw that he-my son looked exactly like his dad although upon confrontation my boyfriend seemed to be clueless until 20 or so minutes after he thought of where he may know her...detail i left out: after i left his house i stood at the door to listen to what he would say to his cousin and he said he was upset that i would think that he was "talking to" someone else. i dont know if he just told his cousin that because he knows we interact sometimes and he didnt want to look bad in front of him although i cannot deny the fact that he didnt say this in my knowing presence. the following day is when he began to act mean to me and has even resorted to not allowing me to use his car when i cannot get places very easily without it and calling me names and breaking up with me because i have "so little trust in him" if there is any advice or imput on this i would greatly appreciate it as it is putting a strain on me and my son. thank you. |
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| I think your boyfriend is restricting you from using his car so another situation like the last one won't happen again. Honestly, from your story, it sounds like he had an affair with this woman. I don't know if the small pupils is a sign of lying, but did you watch his eye patterns? Which way did his eyes move? Also, you said that he didn't even blink when he was speaking to you. Some liars will maintain too much eye contact, in an effort to try to persuade you. I wish you the best of luck, and for more advice, I'd reccomend reading over this whole website. |
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I AGREE WITH ANONYOUS!
PLUS HIS OVER REACTING AND ANGER WOULD INDICATE TO ME HE'S BEEN CAUGHT AND TOOK THE EASY WAY OUT TO AVOID FURTHER CONFRONTATION.BEST OF LUCK! |
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